Dating tips for women body language
Power poses were introduced to the world in a 2012 TED Talk by Amy Cuddy and they’ve gained massive popularity since then, probably because they’re a quick, easy way to help people feel great about themselves.
All you have to do is stand like a superhero, hands on hips, for a couple of minutes. Professor Cuddy’s research showed that posing the body powerfully made people feel more confident going into high pressure situations like an interview, presentation — or date.
Judi explained you tend to get one of two extremes and it depends very much on how polite they are.
She said: “But when we’re dating somebody it’s normally a difficult performance for them because dates tend to be in quite a confined space, so either you’re sitting together in a bar or you’re sharing dinner together, so you’ve kind of got nowhere to go or nowhere to hide." So if they’re quite polite you might see what are known as over congruent body language rituals, and that means loads of interest in what you’re saying, lots of eye contact, lots of raised eyebrows, smiling, over congruent laughter when you saying anything remotely funny.
What they’re doing is the biggest fake display because they’re just trying to get it over and done with and be as polite as possible so they can clear off and get back to their social media or dating sites.
So if it feels a bit overdone, if it feels a bit overacted, that probably means that they’re more particularly into you.
So you’ll begin to see a little bit of an eye dart - one side to the other - to see if there’s anyone else more interesting that might fancy them.(Full disclosure: Ben is my boyfriend.) Here’s what they told me.