Start dating after divorce kids
Both men and women prematurely getting into the world of romance and start dating after divorce before they’re actually ready, and for most of them, before the divorce is even final.
Dating after divorce and falling in love after divorce, both can be huge and irreparable mistakes.
If you want to use dating as a distraction for loneliness, insecurity, boredom or anything else, you’re doing again a great disservice to yourself and whoever else you’re bringing into your personal hell with you. A lot of my clients had already set up rebound relationships before they were even separated, or during separation, or right after the divorce papers are served they already had their eyes on someone to fill the void. This is true about most men and men dating after divorce immediately is not unheard of.
Work with a counselor, minister, therapist, relationship life coach who knows what the hell they’re doing to figure out the mistakes that “you“ made in your past marriage. If you have a revolving door of dating after divorce, where it’s one person for several months… You’re sending them a message that you do not want them to see: that the fear of being alone is greater than the fear of being grounded.
You two were a couple and to see your spouse with someone else will trigger feelings in you that may be surprising and unpleasant.
It does not mean you are still in love but rather you are witnessing the evidence that your spouse now has someone else in the place you used to fill.
It’s a common tragedy that I’ve seen in my practice for the last 28 years.
If you’re separated, do not bring anyone else into your chaos and drama or start dating again after divorce. Or if you must, be honest with people about your inability to be in a monogamous relationship and tell them you just want to have fun.
You’re on a roller coaster ride that you will do a great disservice to anyone you bring along with you. I have no judgment if that’s what you want to do it, but don’t get into a relationship after divorce.